Kate Harding, on attraction:
The waiting can suck, if you prefer being in a relationship. It can suck a lot. But the zing! does not depend on thinness or whiteness or blondeness or tallness or richness or haired-ness. It depends on the time, place, and person, on a host of things you can’t control, and on another host of things you can’t even consciously recognize.
(There’s a lot more. You should read the rest, too.)
What she says? Intellectually, I get it. I believe it… for other people. I’ve got the political part of fat acceptance down, no problem. The personal part? Just a little bit harder.