I also wanted to thank you again for so honestly writing about these ideas . I could have written the same exact post myself (though in a far less articulate manner). And, honestly, I think part of what makes you beautiful, beyond what I can see from your tiny little picture, is your sincerity and your willingness to share this part of your life with other women going through the same thing. To me, that makes you drop-dead gorgeous.

But the specifics of my size don’t really matter… if I were bigger, or looked bigger, I could still be beautiful, and men could still find me attractive, and it would blow my mind just as it does now.

When I saw your pictures, I didn’t think you looked “obese.” I thought you looked big, tall and healthy–and yes, on the heavy/fat side. BUT I also thought that you could look even better if you wore properly fitting, flattering clothing. (The jacket in your work outfit didn’t look like it fit well.)

Also, I’m new the fat acceptance world too–but I think you’re being too hard on yourself when it comes to your habits. I think the most important message is to live NOW and not wait to do things until you are some ideal, impossible size and living some ideal, perfect life. And that’s exactly what you’re doing! Congratulations!

Frankly, I don’t think it’s possible not to notice someone’s body shape just because they’ve got clothes on. It may be nothing but a hunch, but Writer Guy seems to like you exactly as you are! :o)

And, on a personal note, when I met my boyfriend, I thought he was way out of my league – smart, funny, sexy, every girl I knew wanted a piece of him. But he fell in love with me and it took him weeks to make a move because he thought that I was way out of his league and he didn’t stand a chance… and I was (and still am) chubby, shy, quirky and most emphatically not very fond of myself…

Love,

B.